Jen Hatmaker is nothing if not outspoken. The Christian writer rarely minces her words, even when she addresses controversial topics. Hatmaker’s calls for the inclusion of the LGBTQ+ people into the Christian community have drawn the ire of many in the community.

Her comments against Donald Trump attracted death threats from supporters of the controversial president. Yet, Jen rarely cowers, no matter how harsh the criticism. The three-time New York best-selling other is a role model that we can all look up to.

In September 2020, Jen announced that she and her husband Brandon are getting divorced

Jen had told her fans that she was dealing with a family issue, but no one expected that the issue involved divorce. On 7th September 2020, Hatmaker took to Facebook to announce that she and Brandon are getting divorced. She wrote:

“I don’t know how to say this, and I still cannot believe I am even saying it, but Brandon and I are getting divorced. Although the details are ours alone, this was completely unexpected, and I remain stunned as we speak. I am shocked, grief-stricken, and broken hearted.”

Jen urged fans to respect her family’s privacy and not to direct hateful comments at them. She also asked people to remember the family in prayer as it negotiates this difficult period. “If you pray, pray for us,” she wrote. “Hold us dear to your hearts.”

Hatmaker’s July 2021 Instagram post suggests that she’s ready to move on following her divorce


On 11th July 2021, Hatmaker updated fans on her progress since the ‘worst day of her life’ a year prior. “Every nightmarish second of it seared into my brain,” Jen wrote.

She stated that it had been a year of healing and making new memories. Jen also revealed that she’d met someone with whom she’d had her ‘first first kiss since 1992.’ Hatmaker said:

“I met a cute boy at camp and we kissed under the stars overlooking the ocean at sunset. My first first kiss since 1992.”

In a subsequent post just six days later, Jen bore her soul, admitting that dealing with the grief brought by her broken marriage wasn’t easy. She talked of living in a paradise ‘waylaid by sadness’. Her grief trigger: seeing happy families.

“When I see a mom and dad with kids running around like puppies while they manage and laugh and hold little hands and look at each other with love for their little brood, it is like a spear to the heart. I miss my family so much. We were that family for so long. Loud, funny, in it together, invincible.”

Jen described grief as a partial eclipse that one can’t get rid of, even after the initial hurt subsides. As Jen concluded, she accepted that she might never rid herself of grief. She stated:

“I have not achieved some miraculous healing where the old is entirely gone and I stand here, dazzling, in the new. We just learn to live with the sadness that will never be completely erased even by new happiness. That is the work. To hold both, denying neither, letting it come when it does.”

Jen and her ex-husband Brandon were high school sweethearts at Oklahoma Baptist University

Jen and Brandon Hatmaker

Jen Hatmaker was born in 1974 into a religious family. She adopted her family’s religion, and largely grew up in the church.

She met her ex-husband, Brandon Hatmaker, at Oklahoma State University. The couple didn’t wait long before getting married, and Jen was only 19 when she took her marriage vows.

Jen and Brandon can be considered a perfect couple. Their relationship is grounded on their unshakable Christian beliefs and the endless love they share for each other. On 30th June 2020, Jen shared an Instagram photo of the couple and attached the following caption:

“The things we’ve weathered, experienced, forgiven, and overcome could fill a thousand books. Oh my, how we have had to choose each other over and over. But here we are on Day 9899 still in love.”

Jen describes her three biological and two adopted children as ‘maniacs’

Jen Hatmaker children

Jen and Brandon have three biological children: Sydney, Caleb, and Gavin; and two adopted children: Remy and Ben. The couple adopted Remy and Ben from Ethiopia when they were five and eight, respectively. 

Jen describes herself in her bio as ‘Mom to 5 maniacs’. She told Politico that her family ‘falls decisively in the spicy camp- sarcastic, loud, unruly.’ Before the family’s reality show aired, Jane wrote in her blog, ‘we [her family] can lay us down some crazy.’ 

Despite the above descriptions about her family, Jen shares a deep bond with her kids. She dedicates long Instagram posts to her children and comes out in their defense whenever necessary. 

In mid-2020, Jen showed her love for her kids when she spoke out against racial inequality. Jen revealed that she broke down when her 12-year-old daughter from Ethiopia asked her why ‘white people thought they were better than black people.’

She revealed on Today that raising her adopted kids helped changed her perspective on racial inequality. “This is not the place to be neutral or silent,” she said. “This is on us at this point to come in with clear leadership for the kids we are raising, the kids that we’re influencing to be an advocate and ally for their peers of color.”

Jen recently revealed that her family is ‘navigating an unexpected crisis.’ She asked her followers to pray for the family, and not to be overly worried. “Please know that everyone is safe, and all our kids are okay,” she wrote on Facebook. “Also know that our community and family has radically cared for us, and we are surrounded by loved and support.”

She came under fire for criticizing President Trump and calling for the inclusion of the LGBTQ+ community into the church

Jen Hatmaker

In 2016, Jen courted controversy when she joined a group of Evangelists who criticized Donald Trump. She then went against the advice of her friends and spoke for the inclusion of the LGBTQ+ community into the church. Jen told Religion News Service:

“Not only are these our neighbors and friends, but they are brothers and sisters in Christ. They are adopted into the same family as the rest of us, and the church hasn’t treated the LGBT community like family. We have to do better.”

After her admission, she started to receive death threats. People who’d bought her books mailed them back to her address; others burnt the books or tore them to shreds. Jen was advised to roll back on her statements to save her career, but she remained steadfast in her opinions. Instead of losing popularity, she gained fans who adored her bravery in the face of potential adversity.

Jen recently revealed via Instagram that her daughter Sydney is gay. She stated that Sydney had been gay for a while, but she wanted her daughter to come out to the world in her own time. Jen wrote:

“This is our girl. We are so proud. We love every inch of her & celebrate her queerness alongside every other wonderful characteristic. This community has loved her since she was little, so I know you will be good to her young beautiful heart.”